8 Simple Ways to Instantly Improve Your Marriage
Marriage relationship
is not a bread and butter affair. Many who are into it have one experience or
another to share. When you think you have got it right you just discover that
there are so many things you haven’t known yet. If you really want to hold fast
to your marriage, here are 8 simply ways that can help you to improve
significantly. It’s carefully packaged by Bode Akinola of Family
Parliament Forum.
The overall health of your marriage will be
determined by what you do consistently over a long period of time, but you can
get started right away.
I stepped on a scale in the doctor’s office last week, and I assumed their scale must be broken because the number was way too high! I was slapped in the face with a reality I had been avoiding. I had gained weight. I had slipped into an autopilot of overeating and the results were obvious.
I stepped on a scale in the doctor’s office last week, and I assumed their scale must be broken because the number was way too high! I was slapped in the face with a reality I had been avoiding. I had gained weight. I had slipped into an autopilot of overeating and the results were obvious.
When we have any area in our life where we
want to make an improvement, if you’re like me, you want to see that
improvement immediately. I’d like to get back on the scale the next day and see
twenty pounds gone, but that’s not how it works. I didn’t gain the weight
overnight and I won’t lose it overnight. I can, however, make some immediate
changes which will create some immediate improvement and lead to positive,
long-term results.
It’s the same in your marriage
It’s the same in your marriage
The overall health of your marriage will be
determined by what you do consistently over a long period of time, but you can
get started right away. There are some adjustments you can make which will have
an immediate, positive impact on your relationship. Below are 8 simple ways to
instantly improve your marriage.
1. Stop “keeping score.”
Married couples offend each other every day. We step on each other’s toes. We hurt each other’s feelings. Imagine how much your marriage could improve if neither spouse kept score of every little offense, and instead, chose to see the best in their spouse and extend grace and compassion. I know it’s tough, but give it a try. It could revolutionize your relationship.
Married couples offend each other every day. We step on each other’s toes. We hurt each other’s feelings. Imagine how much your marriage could improve if neither spouse kept score of every little offense, and instead, chose to see the best in their spouse and extend grace and compassion. I know it’s tough, but give it a try. It could revolutionize your relationship.
2. Prioritize what happens in the
bedroom
It takes more than s*x to build a strong marriage, but it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it. Improving your sexual intimacy will always improve your marriage as a result.
It takes more than s*x to build a strong marriage, but it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it. Improving your sexual intimacy will always improve your marriage as a result.
3. Submit to your spouse’s preferences
We’re all pretty selfish by nature, and we like to have our way, eat what we like, watch what we like on TV, and basically have life revolve around us. The strongest marriages are those where each spouse submits to the preferences of the other. Be willing to go first! Regardless of how your spouse instantly responds, serve him or her by prioritizing his or her preferences ahead of your own.
We’re all pretty selfish by nature, and we like to have our way, eat what we like, watch what we like on TV, and basically have life revolve around us. The strongest marriages are those where each spouse submits to the preferences of the other. Be willing to go first! Regardless of how your spouse instantly responds, serve him or her by prioritizing his or her preferences ahead of your own.
4. Communicate about everything
I’ve always been bad about sharing details. It’s part of being a stereotypical male, I suppose. Still, I’m learning the value of opening up about the details of my day, my feelings and my struggles. It brings a new level of intimacy to our marriage. Better communication creates a better marriage.
I’ve always been bad about sharing details. It’s part of being a stereotypical male, I suppose. Still, I’m learning the value of opening up about the details of my day, my feelings and my struggles. It brings a new level of intimacy to our marriage. Better communication creates a better marriage.
5. Invest in shared experiences
We’re in the crazy years of raising a young family, so we’ve got to work extra hard to prioritize time together alone. Make a regular date night a priority. Find ways to serve together and make a difference together. Look for ways to create new memories and new adventures together. Your marriage will be largely built on those shared experiences.
We’re in the crazy years of raising a young family, so we’ve got to work extra hard to prioritize time together alone. Make a regular date night a priority. Find ways to serve together and make a difference together. Look for ways to create new memories and new adventures together. Your marriage will be largely built on those shared experiences.
6.
Learn something new
I write and teach about marriage, but I’m
still the first to admit I’ve got a LOT to learn! Keep learning about your
spouse, but also keep learning about life and marriage. Read books. Connect
with some mentors who could help you keep learning and growing.
7. Get rid of the clutter
When life is overly hectic, messy and busy, that chaos inevitably spills over into your marriage. I’m not very organized, but I’m learning the freedom that comes with de-cluttering. Stop adding stuff to your schedules. Stop packing more junk into your house. Start having conversations about what you should quit doing or quit buying. Simplify your life and you’ll improve your marriage.
When life is overly hectic, messy and busy, that chaos inevitably spills over into your marriage. I’m not very organized, but I’m learning the freedom that comes with de-cluttering. Stop adding stuff to your schedules. Stop packing more junk into your house. Start having conversations about what you should quit doing or quit buying. Simplify your life and you’ll improve your marriage.
8.Celebrate the wins
I’m usually better at pointing out the stuff that needs to be fixed than I am about celebrating when something positive happens. I’m learning not to always focus on what still needs to be improved, because it takes my eyes off all the blessings happening right in front of me. Take time to celebrate the positives in your life and your marriage and that attitude of gratitude will help you deal with the negative stuff in a healthy, productive way.
I’m usually better at pointing out the stuff that needs to be fixed than I am about celebrating when something positive happens. I’m learning not to always focus on what still needs to be improved, because it takes my eyes off all the blessings happening right in front of me. Take time to celebrate the positives in your life and your marriage and that attitude of gratitude will help you deal with the negative stuff in a healthy, productive way.
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